How to Get Married in Harvest Moon: Back to Nature

To get married in Harvest Moon Back to Nature, you need to increase a girl’s affection to red, expand your house twice and buy the Blue Feather from the Supermarket before you can propose to the girl you like.

Why You Should Get Married

Your wife gives additional farm percentage points. | Harvest Moon Back to Nature
Your wife gives additional farm percentage points.

You need to have high percentage points by the start of Year 3 to stay on the farm and continue playing. Your wife and child will give you 1% for every heart they have, so it is important to choose and marry a girl before you reach Year 3.

Heart Colors

A heart that indicates affection level will appear on the lower right of a girl’s dialogue box when you talk to her. You need to increase a girl’s heart level to red before you can marry her.

Heart ColorAffection Points
Black0 – 4999
Purple5000 – 19999
Blue20000 – 29999
Green30000 – 39999
Yellow40000 – 49999
Orange50000 – 59999
Red60000 – 65535

How to increase a Girl’s Affection

Gifts

The player gives Karen her favorite gift. | Harvest Moon Back to Nature
The player gives Karen her favorite gift.

Giving gifts to the girls is the best way to raise their affection level. Giving a girl her loved gift on her birthday will raise her affection level better than on a regular day.

You can give them multiple gifts daily but the first gift will have an increased effect on their affection levels.

Wrapping a birthday gift increases affection significantly. | Harvest Moon Back to Nature
Wrapping a birthday gift increases affection significantly.

Tip: You can increase the effect of a birthday gift by wrapping it in wrapping paper. Head to the Supermarket and buy the wrapping paper before giving it to the girl on her birthday.

Affection Modifier for First Gift of the Day

GiftAffectionBirthday GiftWrapped Birthday Gift
Hated-800-800-4000
Disliked-500-500-2500
Neutral+100+100+500
Liked+300+300+1500
Loved+500+500+2500

Affection Modifier for Additional Gifts

GiftAffectionBirthday GiftWrapped Birthday Gift
Hated-800-800-4000
Disliked-500-500-2500
Neutral000
Liked+100+100+500
Loved+300+300+1500

Extra Notes on Affection

  • Talk to the girl you like every day. This will increase their affection by a small amount.
  • Certain events will trigger for each girl. You can increase or decrease their affection based on your choices during these events.
  • Gifting the Perfume from Kai will increase any girl’s affection by 1000 points.

Upgrade Your House

A bedroom with two beds is required to marry a girl. | Harvest Moon Back to Nature
A bedroom with two beds is required to marry a girl.

If you’re going to marry your favorite girl, she will need a bed to sleep in your house. Gotz in the Woodcutter’s House will upgrade your farm buildings and house for lumber and gold. The second house expansion will add a bedroom with an additional bed.

Requirements to get the Bedroom

  • Upgrade the Chicken Coop
  • Build the first house extension
  • Upgrade the Barn
  • Build the second house extension

Get the Blue Feather

The player acquires the Blue Feather | Harvest Moon Back to Nature
The player acquires the Blue Feather

The final step before you get married is to buy the Blue Feather. You can buy it at the Supermarket for 1000G once a girl reaches the orange heart affection level. 

Blue Feather Tips

  •  The Blue Feather works like a tool and takes up a space in your equipment slots.
  • Won will try to sell you a Blue Feather for 30,000G. Just buy the one from the Supermarket. 
  • Although you can buy the Blue Feather when a girl is at orange heart, a girl will not accept the Blue Feather unless she has the red heart affection level.

Marriage

Popuri accepts the player's marriage proposal. | Harvest Moon Back to Nature
Popuri accepts the player’s marriage proposal.

Once you’ve done the steps above, you can propose to your favorite girl! Equip the Blue Feather like a tool, and use it in front of her. She should accept the Blue Feather, and you will marry her at the church after a week.

You can check the exact date of your wedding by looking at the calendar. A heart symbol marks your wedding day. If there is an event on your wedding day, it will move to a different date.

After a cutscene in the church, your wife will now move to your house and live with you!

Note: If you don’t marry a girl by the start of Year 3, she will soon marry your rival for her affection.

Pregnancy

Elli announcing your wife's pregnancy. | Harvest Moon Back to Nature
Elli announcing your wife’s pregnancy.

You have to give your wife gifts every day to get her pregnant. Soon she will speak to you about how she’s not feeling well or she “feels hungry but doesn’t feel like doing anything”. When this happens, visit the clinic.

Elli will announce that your wife is pregnant. After two seasons, your wife will give birth to your child. You won’t be able to do any farm work during this day.After 60 days, your child will grow. You can then give him gifts like Milk and Hot Milk to increase his affection. Remember that every heart he has will give you 1% percentage towards your farm’s completion.